You saw her at the bar. She was smoking hot- at least a 9. You buy her a few rounds and both get nice and liquored up. You get her back to your place and go at it like rabbits in springtime. The sex is phenomenal. The woman is beautiful.
And then you bust… Now you can’t even look at her anymore and can’t wait for her to find her panties, which are probably swinging on the chandelier somewhere, and get the hell out of your apartment.
What happened? You had a ton of fun while railing her against your backboard- but now you’re deleting her number from your phone… What’s her name again? This phenomenon is very common among men and women alike (although much more prominent in men). Some doctors like to call Post-coital Blues.
Records of post-coital blues go back as far as ancient Greek and Roman times. Unfortunately, not much is known about this deal breaker. This is because extensive research into exactly what happens in the brain, during and post sex, has yet to be done.
Dr. Richard A. Friedman wrote an article in the New York Times science section of the Tuesday, January 20th 2009 edition discussing the dysphoria and general sense of dissatisfaction experience by many occurring after intense and satisfying orgasm with a loved one.
If you think feeling disgust towards your one-night stand is bad, imagine feeling that way about your girlfriend or wife of 4 years. Some people experience a 4 to 6-hour period of depression and irritability after an orgasm. The one thing that is known is that the part of the brain known as the Amygdala (the part that deals with your emotions) is supposed to lower your level of fear after intercourse.
Dr. Friedman’s theory is that in certain cases the Amygdala, instead of decreasing levels of fear and disgust, reversely increases those levels instead. He also reported prescribing Prozac to counter the depression reaction after orgasm and the results were very positive. Unfortunately, after patients had stopped using the medication, the feelings of post-sex disgust returned.
While taking medication should always be avoided if possible, if you suffer from intense depression and disgust at your partner after sex, it may be a good idea to consult your doctor. But make sure that you are feeling disgust towards your lady friend for some mysterious reason and not simply because you sobered up and realized she was a walrus.
Paul Hudson | Elite.
